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The beauty of breath

April 18, 2018

Our ability to breathe is remarkable; I know I’m stating the obvious, but we do it without thinking.

We have the capacity to change our breathing consciously by - gasping or sighing for instance, but we can also affect it subconsciously depending on how we are feeling. Mood is inextricably linked to breath.

Last week, I mentioned on an Instagram post that life has been a little up and down of late. I tend to not let stress get to me, and actually I think I am pretty effective at dealing with a high baseline of stress.

But I know in myself when I am feeding off it in a positive way and when I am not - and I haven’t been lately so I knew I had to do something.

I’m sure like me you have daily practices that punctuate your day, that are good for your general wellbeing. Some people run or go for power walks, others like me start their day with meditation. I also exercise about 4-5 times a week - and of course I sing most days.

But over the last month or so these “good practices” haven’t been as effective as normal. I am doing them but they are not keeping me as balanced as I would like and the more I noticed I wasn’t feeling refreshed after mediating, or I wasn’t using my voice in the way that I wanted, the more annoyed I was getting with myself.

Then last week I realised, it wasn’t what I was doing that was failing me – it was how I was doing it - and specifically how I was breathing.

When I look to my Indian background, most of my extended family practises some sort of yoga. My mother has been doing it since she was at school and now in her 80s, it is still how she starts her day.

Yoga teachers (yogis) have known of the benefits of mindful breathing for centuries. And over the years, scientific research has corroborated these benefits. Paying attention to how we breathe is one of the most effective tools to lower stress levels and improve our mood.

I pride myself on understanding the mechanics and benefits of breathing properly, especially because good breath control is fundamental in singing.

But, and this may sound silly, I have remembered that it is not enough to just breathe; the rate at which we breathe is vital. It is related to the autonomic nervous system which controls our bodies’ sympathetic response (which is the fight or flight thing) and parasympathetic response, which is our rest and restore function, which feeds into our heart rate and respiration, which go up or down depending on whether we are relaxed or stressed or somewhere in between.

Over the last week I have been taking the time to really tap into my breath. There is something beautiful about concentrating on stillness, and tuning into breathing.

I have reminded myself that like so many things, it is not enough to just go through the motions. Consciously breathing is helping me replenish my energy, strengthen my “good practices” and make me feel like I have a solid foundation from which I can tackle the stresses that may come my way.

So now I have a new daily practice - as soon as I wake up (or whenever I need to) I stop and focus in on my breath - soft and slow breaths to start that become deeper and lower the longer I concentrate. And though I am pretty sure I knew this, I am remembering that deep, low abdominal breathing is truly transformative.    

In Harmony Tags Breathe, breathing, mental wellbeing, mindful breathing, scientific research, self-care, self-improvement, the beauty of breath, well-being, yoga
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New Year - New Me?

January 15, 2017

Aaaaaargh!!!!I can’t quite believe it is the middle of January already - 2017 is in full flow and so far so good. I know loads of people who are not crazy about the New Year, but I love it - fresh starts, clean slates and new plans.

This year I was struggling with resolutions - so I decided to look some of my habits and fine-tune them. I have dubbed 2017 as my year of self-improvement and living life to the full (!!)… I’ve written it down now – so there is no going back!

Here are some habits I want to improve this year:

1. STOP MULTI-TASKING.

I don’t know about you but I am often juggling more than one thing at a time. Multitasking can be instinctive as life is busy and many of us have almost programmed ourselves to think it’s the best way to get “stuff” done. But it can be detrimental. Of course, I am delighted when I juggle any number of things and they neatly end up as they should - but more often than not, I end up scrabbling around and not putting all my attention into one thing at a time and everything takes longer. So this year I am going to be more methodical and enjoy each separate task, whatever it may be.

2. LIVING IN THE MOMENT.

One of the key phrases of my adult life, and I am a big advocate of this. I tell friends and family to enjoy and savour the present – but I am not good at practising what I preach. I am great planner so I am always ready for the future. And there are times when this is really useful but the trouble is, the present moment can get lost and that’s a shame. So, I have promised myself I am not going to do that anymore.

3. FITNESS GOALS.

This year I plan to be stronger, fitter and a little leaner by the end of the year. But my main fitness goal is to stop weighing myself. A lot of us judge ourselves by the number on the scale and if it isn’t favourable, well I don’t know about you – but I can be pretty hard on myself. So in the spirit of improving  and being kinder to myself - I’m going to stop. I guess if you like how you look in the mirror and your clothes fit well – what bearing does the number have?

4. LET IT GO.

I’m rubbish at this one. But I have decided to tackle it head on. Sometimes things don’t go your own way – the balance between knowing when to keep trying and knowing when to let go is a tricky one. I personally hate giving up or conceding defeat but in the long run, sometimes it can be better to cut your loses. Similarly, emotionally there is no benefit to holding onto negativity. The trouble with me is I am like an elephant, I don’t forget a thing …but remembering everything is not always helpful. So I’m going to let it go.....hmm, I'm feeling pretty “Zen” already :)

5. And now for a conventional resolution – A NEW SKILL.

When I was younger I used to dance a lot – ballet, ballroom and a lots of Indian dance – but never Latin and I have always wanted to try. So last week, on a whim I decided to book a lesson. Turns out I have rhythm and I can kinda do it. Lesson one was the basics of cha cha cha and I’m going back for more this week. The pinnacle for me, will be if I can learn the tango…but it might be while…

Wow, getting that all down was really rather therapeutic – what about you – what are your plans for yourself this year? 

In Ageless Tags habits, new resolutions, New Year, self-improvement

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